the power of your emotions, how your emotions affect your body. every blockage of energy has an emotion attached to it.
The Five Love languages
December 10, 2007 By 3 Comments
Gary Chapman is an experienced marriage councellor. According to him it is important todiscoverb your and your parter’s primary Love Language. No point speaking French if he speaks German! We are all multi lingual in matters of the heart and can speak a little of all 5 languages but we all have our prefered mother tongue.!!
What is yours?Is it
- quality time
- words of affirmations
- receiving gifts
- acts of services
- physical touch
This may not sound like a big deal, but considering the divorce rate is 50% (as one relationship instance), and so many seem to be unhappy with their primary relationships, the concept of love languages may very well be a signficant factor in understanding self and others, and in relationship growth. Perhaps relationships get rocky or arrive at an impasse because individuals are speaking a different love language than what fills up the “love tank” of the object of their affection…and a result, the recipient doesn’t feel loved. It’s not that they feel empty and unfufilled because love isn’t being given, but because the language “spoken” is not something that registers to the recipient as a form of love.
Chapman further theorizes that we usually have 2 main love languages that fill up our tank. He also says that if a person has a hard time identifying their main love languages, they’ve either been on empty for so long and are out of touch with their needs, or they have been so filled up by their spouse, that all 5 languages tend to speak to them equally.
A story in the book that illustrates the love tank theory is the “burnt toast syndrome”. A woman was sick in bed. Her husband would always bring her burnt toast to her when she was ailing. She was so hurt and offended by this repeated insensitivity and ignorance, that she finally burst into tears one day, and asked him why he did that…and didn’t he care? She was floored to hear him say “I’m sorry honey. I had no idea. Burnt toast is my favorite, and I gave you what I would consider my favorite breakfast…burnt toast.”
Chapman writes: “When your spouse’s emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks right and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and he feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and he will likely never reach his potential for good in the world.”
I recommend this book highly. This is a great gift book for those going into relationships, those suffering from a recent relationship ending, as well as those who are in a present relationship. It’s for women and men equally. Read it and find out what language you speak and therefore desire. You’ll probably realize why roses aren’t always the answer!
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Critical Moment
December 10, 2007 By Leave a Comment
Critical Moments ! I had many in my life, did you?
One of the most significant one was a few month ago when I was invited to attend
National Achievers Congress In Kuala Lumpur, last May.I had the pleasure and privilege to listen to fantastic international speakers.However the one that stood out for me was Roger Hamilton, the Chairman and founder of XL Results Foundation.All the speakers where so empowering and motivating,inciting you to push your limits, Roger Hamilton really touch my heart.His prestence , charisma determination and most off all passion moved the whole conference room of 3000 people. Finally , I had found someone who could put the right words and images to my feelings, except that Roger had a much bigger vision than mine. While he was explaining what was XL Results foundation all about ,I was transported to an other world, a meaningfull one ,I decided I wanted to be part of this movement. I also, wanted to become more successful in order to make a difference to the world , to leave a legacy , I also wanted to live with passion and I could sense that XL Results Foundation would be a powerful vehicle to do so.So when Roger invited us to join , I got up…or did I jump ?, my heart was beating real fast,… was that fear ? …or was that courage? I am proud to say I became a XL life member!
When I reached home, still in a daze, thinking of the infinite possibilities, I told my son that I had just bought a car !!! You should have seen his puzzled look, why would I need a second car ?….I just know that this one can create Magic.!
here are a few videos, if you like them ,are inspired by them, contact me for more details, and I could connect you with the right person in your area. ***********************************************************************
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2.Roger on creating the space for success to happen
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